One of the hardest things in life is knowing how to help a friend get through a time of loss and mourning.
Grieving is a personal and highly individual experience. Help your friend take it one day at a time, and don’t try to rush them through it. Often your greatest help is just being there. As time goes on, the grieving person may feel they are leaning too hard on family and friends. Be sure to let them know that you will continue to be there for them as long as you need them.
If you can’t be there in person, talk to your friend on the phone. There are a lot of phone packages now, which will allow you to talk for hours if need be, without breaking the bank. Call your phone service provider.
Make the effort to call, to come by, to help your friend out six months and even a year down the road. Crowds may be difficult for them. Shopping and holidays can be overwhelming. Offer your help.
In the first months, preparing healthy meals may be difficult. Consider sending a gift of meals from MagicKitchen.com or a local restaurant or catering company.
Be on the look-out for destructive behaviors. Traumatic loss can lead some people into depression, alcohol or drug abuse. Your friend may need you to keep an eye on them while things are especially tough.
Laughter is good medicine.You have some great stories about their loved one that will make them laugh and cry, Watch television shows with them which are light-hearted and uplifting.
Be willing to do difficult things with your friend. They may need someone to sit with them in court, or help with the funeral. There may be some hard times ahead and facing them alone can be terrifying.
Dealing with grief cannot be avoided. Help your friend get through it and your true friendship and companionship, your kindness and patience can help them get our lives back together, and will be remembered always.
Melody, MagicKitchen.com blogger